• at August 26, 2018

    My mother lives in a retirement residence. In the last few weeks, she has been having balance problems, dizziness issues and has also fallen, but thankfully, she wasn’t hurt badly. The home is now saying they cannot care for her in the way I want them to.

    I asked that they pay a bit more attention to her in view of the situation. The doctors can’t seem to find anything wrong. Now they are saying perhaps she is just acting or seeking attention. Have you heard anything so preposterous?

    I got a call from them regarding the situation. The thing is, I didn’t get the person’s name. For all I know, it could have been one of the workers. But the thing is, can they say stuff like that? Are they just trying to get rid of her? Maybe they just want an easy life with less ‘troublesome’ residents. The doctor also said she will be fine and that all she needs is some rest.

    I know my mother isn’t making this up. She is suffering and I have lost faith in this place. I’m afraid they won’t care for her now or worse, maybe even get abusive!

  • at August 26, 2018

    Wow, I had no idea stuff like this happens. Firstly, sorry to hear about this. I would suggest you have a meeting with the manager or whoever runs the home. Tell them about this call. Run this by them first and see what they say.

    If the person who is in charge is the one who made the call, then talk to them in greater detail. If he or she did not make the call, then see what his or her reaction is when you tell them. I also think you need to have a second opinion regarding your mother’s condition. She’s had this for weeks and still has not got better.

  • at August 26, 2018

    I am also thinking of seeking legal help. This is ridiculous.

  • at August 26, 2018

    Why don’t you meet them first. At the same time, arrange for medical help. You also need to tell your mother to be incredibly careful.

  • at August 26, 2018

    I cannot believe how insensitive people can be. I would not bother with this home. I think you should start making arrangements to find another place for her. You have to research places. Not all of these places are good, you know?

  • at August 26, 2018

    Yes, I can see that now.

  • at August 26, 2018

    While I sympathize with your plight, I think you should investigate your mother more. That should be the main priority. You don’t want it to be something serious. Is it her blood pressure? Is it her inner ear? Could it be BPPV (benign paroxysmal positional vertigo)?

    A GP may not know too much about some of that. She may need to see a specialist. Some older folk get balance problems or other conditions which may not be dangerous in itself, but could potentially bring about a dangerous outcome, such as a fall.

  • at August 26, 2018

    I know you have your hands full, but think of moving her out. I spoke to a friend of mine whose father lives in one of these homes and he says he is happy with everything and everyone there. That’s why I am replying late. I found out the name of the place. It is Red Oak Retirement Residence and maybe you can move your mother there? Speak with them and let them know the situation though.

  • at August 26, 2018

    Oh, thank you all for your advice. I am so angry right now. I will keep you posted. Thanks again.